5 Things Holding You Back From YOUR Dream

When I very first started college, I had no desire to write a book. In fact, I went into Agricultural Business and Advertising. Don’t get me wrong. I’ve been reading obsessively since I could first read silently at age eight. But I never had a burning desire to write a book until about three years ago.

I had been working hard at building up my photography portfolio and was getting a lot of inquiries foI had been working hard at building up my photography portfolio and was getting a lot of inquiries for collaborations. I focused mainly on headshots, portraits, and product photography.

However, as I was finishing up editing a client’s photos, I wasn’t happy. So with the money I earned from that job, I purchased an iPad and keyboard attachment and decided to give writing a try for a while. I told myself that I’d pick up my camera professionally again when I got tired of writing.

But the thing is, I’ve been writing now for three years solid. And I’m not tired of it. I feel energized every time I sit down with my pink tablet and start writing another scene. I’ve now published my first book, which you can find here, and am working through the rough draft of book 2.

So how did I find what drives me to get out of bed at 4 a.m. (Yes, you didn’t read wrong. I said 4)? How did I finally let go of all those things that held me, and likely you too, back from doing what I loved most?

Here are 5 things that could be holding you back from YOUR dream.

Being Afraid of Stepping Outside Your Box

Now, if you read that little story up there, you would have noticed, I didn’t go to school to become a writer, far from it. I went to school intending to start my own farm someday and learn how to manage it from the ground up. The only writing classes I ever had in college were a public relations writing course and a journalism class.

Yet, by taking those two classes, I found that I was good at it. I even had my PR professor ask me to sign one of my assignments because he thought I did so well. But I was going to help my husband farm while I did photography as a side business because that’s what I’d always done and always going to do.

But I wasn’t happy. I felt burned out and that I was neglecting my kids. So I decided to take a chance on something new. Something that would allow me to be home with my kids and still support my family. I stopped letting my fear of failure take hold, and I took the leap to what felt like changing my identity.

Being Afraid to Start

Maybe you don’t know where to start and feel stuck. If this is the case, then perhaps the best thing to do is jump in anyway. Anything new is hard but is so often worth it. If you never take that first step, you’ll never know if you actually like it. For all you know, you could be the best, but you’ll never know until you try.

“Start writing, no matter what. The water does not flow until the faucet is turned on.”

Louie Lamour

You Don’t Have the Support You Need

Since I have become a writer, and even when I was a photographer, I was astounded at the number of social groups that offer support. Even if no one in your physical space is supportive, you can reach out on Facebook or other locations and instantly get friends. You don’t have to do this alone. 

There are also a plethora of classes and other means to learn the craft you are dying to try.

You Aren’t Accountable to Anyone

This one is huge. We are all great at starting something, but it’s another matter when it comes to finishing. Especially if we’re the only ones involved. Talk to your spouse, your sibling, your parents, your friends. Find someone you can go to who will help keep you on track and check in to make sure you are making progress.

Not Keeping Your Commitments to Yourself

In the Earthspark, one of the biggest themes is “Love, Family, Honor.” The first two are pretty explanatory, but honor is the key here. Do you live your life with integrity? Do you strive to keep every commitment you make with your spouse? Your coworkers? Your friends?

What about yourself? How many times have you tried a diet only to have it fail within a week? Or how many times have you told yourself you were going to learn a foreign language? We are the worst at keeping commitments to ourselves because often no one else knows.

This needs to change. You are important. What you do matters. This was hard to learn as a mom. I always felt like my kids and spouse took priority, but I am important too. If you are going to keep a commitment to anyone, keep it to yourself. Accomplish that dream that’s been living in your back pocket for years.

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About the Author
About the Author

While Fantasy is my primary genre of writing, I feel that we shouldn’t neglect what’s happening in the real world. Which is why my site offers many self-help and motivational articles in addition to news and fun stuff about the Comstock Chronicles. Check them out!

“The Earthspark” is LIVE!

My dream of becoming a published author has come true today. My very first novel, “The Earthspark” is live for sale on Amazon as an ebook. The paperback version is only a day or so away from going live as well.

For those interested in the hardcover version, it is in the works, but as a self-published author, this has been a bit trickier to get figured out. But never fear, figure it out I will.

If you decide to pick up my book, let me know what you thought of it by leaving a comment on this post or leaving a review on Amazon, or one of my social channels. I WANT TO KNOW what you think of this book so I can make the rest of the series even better.

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Do you know SWOT?

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All of us have written down a goal with the full intention of doing it, but for one reason or another, we never accomplish it. If this happens often enough, it may begin to feel like we just aren’t good at goals, so why should we try?

We try because all of us, no matter our walk in life, want to be better than we were the day before. So we continue to set goals. We want to be successful, but perhaps we just don’t have the tools that work for us.

Being a writer was never a goal for me, until two years ago. Before this point, I would write down story ideas on note pads that eventually disappeared, along with my story ideas, and dreams of being an author.

So, with some money I earned from a photo job, I purchased a Mac tablet and a companion keyboard specifically for writing my book. I identified a weakness in my goal and sought out a means for combating it. Because of that one decision, I’m now getting ready to send my first book to the editor.

The same can be true for you. Perhaps all you need is your metaphorical tablet to get you committed to your goals, so you can start being successful in your life.

Using the sheet below, You can write out the goal you wish to see yourself finally succeed at. Write out the strengths you have to get the job done. Next, write out what’s holding you back, what skills do you lack?

In the third box, write out what positive things can happen in your life by accomplishing this goal. Then, write out what roadblocks you may face, whether those are mental or physical.

In the last box, I want you to brainstorm ways you can compensate for your weaknesses, such as hiring an outside person to do part of a job. Then, look for alternate routes you can take to go around those threats or roadblocks.

By taking the time to do this step in your goal setting, you will be that much further in becoming the person that you want to be.

Best of luck to you my friend, and if you find this worksheet helpful, please let me know by leaving a comment here.

Also, If you still need help writing out your initial goals, check out MY Goals sheet!

What Can You Accomplish This Year?

On a recent call with my writing coach, he asked the question of “What does your one year plan look like? What goals in your writing do you want to achieve? And what steps are you going to take to get you there?

I had a rough idea of some things I would like to see happen in the next year of my writing career, but nothing concrete. The more I’ve thought about it, however, one thing kept coming to my mind.

I want to publish a book by November 2021.

This can sound like a lofty goal. Especially when you factor in three small kids to the equation. However, I feel that with determination and a bit of grit, I can make this happen. With that in mind, I set out to create a way to make that goal happen and here’s what I came up with.

Now to provide a little explanation using my goal of publishing two books by November 1, 2021. The major milestones I will have to accomplish will be to:

  • Complete the rough draft for book one
  • Complete self-editing
  • Hire an editor
  • Complete manuscript
  • Get cover design
  • Format book
  • Upload book to Amazon

These steps will then be repeated for book two. In order to publish two books I will need to launch my first one by July 1. These goals will need to be accomplished in the next 5/6 months to make this a reality. Hence those milestones are broken into monthly goals.

Next, we break down those monthly goals into weekly and daily goals. These would include writing 1,500 words daily, and a minimum of 9,000 words in a week. As my books are roughly 120,000 words each, that would mean I would need roughly 12 weeks to finish that draft.

The best part, is that at the end of each sheet you have a chance to review your goals and see if there is something you need to change up in order to meet them.

Now click the download button and get started!

Can A Book Change Your Life?

The last two years were a challenge for every single living person. We were all affected in some way and we still feel its effects today. In some cases we had to dig down deep and figure out who we were and why we were doing the things we did.

Despite all the disruptions in our lives, one thing stayed the same. My local library still allowed us to check-out books.

One night as I sat watching a webinar from Self-Publishing School, a book came up called “Miracle Morning,” by Hal Elrod. This book was supposed to teach you how to develop yourself by waking up a little earlier in the morning, and focusing on becoming a better you.

I jotted the title down and shortly queried my library to see if they had it in circulation. Upon finding they did, I hit reserve.

Now, I am a voracious reader and I love personal development books. But as I began to read this book, my life slowly changed. Each section was broken up into bit-sized actionable advice. So as I read, I implemented.

It was amazing. I woke up a little earlier each day and meditated, visualized, read from other books, exercised, and wrote in my journal. These were things I had been trying to do for years, but had not been successful at doing continuously until now. I read that book in September 2020 and I’m still doing these things.

I can’t believe the change I have felt in myself. I’m happier. I actually have some “me” time without interference from a child who is hungry or got poked in the eye. And because I took this “me” time, I am happier with my kids, I get more done during my day, and I’m more relaxed.

If you are looking for a way to feel more productive about your day, check-out Hal’s book. I would definitely give this one FIVE STARS and recommend you get it on your reading list ASAP.

So to answer the question: Can a book change your life? I whole heartedly say YES.

Don’t wait to change your life. If you want to start off this year with a solid plan, check out this post on BHAG’s and grab the pdf.

Do you have a favorite self-improvement book? Share your favorites in the comments!

Do You Have a BHAG?

For years I have wanted to write a book, but it never felt like the right time. I gave it a few half-hearted attempts, but never committed myself to the project. I was recently graduated with a degree in Agricultural Business and Advertising and ready to actually “use my degree.”

I found great joy in being a project manager for a group called Gourmet Gone Wild based in Michigan. I literally got to use everything I learned in college. It was amazing. However, when I became a mom, everything changed.

I found myself wondering who I was besides mid-night room service to my newborn. I no longer worked, so I had lots of free time. So I decided to give a go on writing some of the book ideas I had floating around in my mind. Again, I never committed myself to it.

Finally in 2018, I decided to give myself a year to write the book. For once, I showed up and got my rough draft written. Then I read it.

I was expecting to read something of the same quality as the printed books on my shelf. Not even close. I wondered to myself “Who wrote this? Surely I know how to write better than this.”

I nearly gave up. I became afraid that I wasn’t good enough to write a book. Thank goodness for a supportive husband who got me on the right track and I started again.

This time I decided to dive deeper into my characters and plot. The next draft was significantly better, but I still had a long way to go.

Then in January of 2020 as I sat writing my goals, I put down my bhag (Big Hairy Audacious Goal). I was going to publish my book. The more I learned about publishing, however, I began to feel that self doubt creep back in. “I wasn’t good enough.” “I should just go back to doing photography.”

But then I saw my goal list again. I didn’t want to quit on something that made me so happy. So I signed up for publishing and writing webinars. I put together a business plan (yes, you need one if you plan to make money writing books). and I got help from Self-Publishing School.

I am still terrified about my journey ahead, but I have discovered that I am worth it. I am fully capable of publishing a book and doing it well.

So here’s to not giving up on dreams and doing what we love.

You can download my yearly goal sheet below.

What’s the BHAG you’re going to tackle in the next year?

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